Can you tell me the definition of humanity? According to Merriam-Webster it is as follows:

: the quality or state of being human
: the quality or state of being kind to other people or to animals
: all people

That sounds simple enough, but why then is it so difficult for most of us to display it?

I have been spending a lot of time lately observing society and I must say it frightens me. I am finding the world we live in today unrecognizable from the world I grew up in. Hate and judgement have always been around, but it seems to be running rampant more than ever. People are so quick to judge anyone and everyone, but refuse to take any accountability for themselves and their own actions and/or behaviors. Why is that? What makes any of us better than someone else? True, there are some that are morally hopeless and commit horrendous acts against others who are clearly exempt from this discussion. I am referring to people who choose not to “conform” to the “normalcies” of society. We all come from different backgrounds, have different beliefs, and different lifestyles, so how is it that we are all expected to be the same? Just because one person does not agree with another’s choices, or finds it hard to understand them, should not make them any less of a human being. All this talk about equality, and this groups rights and that groups rights, I believe is just making the problem worse. By constantly putting people into different categories all that is happening is more separation. I am not saying you have to agree with everything everyone does, because I certainly do not, but there is no need to make anyone feel like less of a human because they want to live their life a certain way. If they are not harming others or committing crimes, then what does it matter?

I’ll give you an example of where I am coming from. Whether you watch the show or not, it is most likely that you have been unable to avoid the talk about the Kardashian’s and Bruce Jenner’s life choices. I will admit when I initially heard about it I thought it was completely absurd. At first, I thought it was nothing more than trashy tabloid gossip, but as it became clear that it was in fact real my thoughts turned to confusion and curiosity, some sympathy, and yes even judgment. I could not fathom how someone who was at one time the greatest athlete in the world turned into “this”. “This”? What was I doing? He is not a thing, he is a human being and regardless of how he chooses to live his life he should be treated the same. He is not an object for ridicule and shame, he is someone’s family, he is a father and like the rest of us, he is human. I do not care how much money someone makes or where they live or if their life is public and put on display for the world to see, we are all the same. We all have concerns, we all have bills, we all have jobs, we all have people to care for, we all have emotions, and we all fight to make it another day. We need to stop judging and start supporting. Regardless if we agree with it or not, no one knows everyone’s struggles and stories, but we can certainly appreciate that we all have them, and just because yours were different from someone else and you chose to handle it how you did, that does not mean others have to do the same and it does not make you better than anyone.

I tend to look at things with simplicity, and quite often I am left confused by how complicated people make things. I will say it again, we are all human beings! There is good and bad everywhere in the world, but if we could just be a little less judgmental of each other maybe the good will begin surpass the bad. Again, it does not mean we have to agree with everything, just accept what is. As much as I would like to believe my words will change some people, and they might, I know there are some who will hear nothing. So go ahead, judge me for siding with the Kardashian’s (gasp!), judge me for having tattoos, judge me for being a single mom – just know that while you are busy judging me someone else is judging you.

To Bruce Jenner, I will say I am having a hard time wrapping my head around this, as I am sure most people are, but at the end of the day this is about you and your family. Your appearance may continue to change, but your heart will remain the same and that is what everyone needs to remember. I hope you achieve your goal with going public and are able to help others facing the same struggles with openness, and I hope one day none of this will even have to be a topic for discussion. I would like to someday see there is no longer a need for separation by gender, race, sexuality, etc., and people will just be able to live how they choose. No one has to agree on everything, we just need to be decent to our fellow humans.

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Greetings! I guess you're here to find out who I am...looks like we're in the same boat. I have been writing poetry since I was 16, not because I thought it was a "cool thing to do", but because if I didn't my head would have exploded. With a multitude of words billowing through my brain, I had no other choice but to let them out. Some have been funny, many have been sad, but mostly, they've been guideposts. Unfortunately, I do not write as much as I would like to, but I hope to rectify that. Aside from poetry, I dabble in novel-writing. I have many ideas jotted down, some of them I've started, and maybe one day I will actually get one finished (if I just didn't have to worry about working, paying bills, and simple basic survival). I spend a lot of my time supporting my kids dreams. My daughter is a musician, and my son is an athlete, so between music gigs and school sporting events, my time is pretty much consumed...but I love every single moment of it!! I am also passionate about environmental issues; always looking for ways to lend a hand. Currently, I have an Etsy shop where I sell crocheted items that I have personally made. A portion of the proceeds are going to be donated to two of my favorite charities; Mission Blue and Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation. You can learn more at Other than that, I love to travel! I hope to see as much of the world as possible. There is so much more out there than just where we are, and I feel it is a gift that we should not take for granted. Once upon a time I was a runner (though some may have called it jogging with enthusiasm), but my Achilles decided it didn't like that anymore so now we walk. I'm beginning to venture into yoga, which so far has been a pleasant experience, and if time will permit, I would like to start doing some hiking. I also love music and going to concerts, coffee is my best friend, and over thinking is my worst enemy. So that's pretty much me in a nutshell. Nothing too fancy or exciting, just a 40-something still trying to figure it all out. I hope you enjoy my ramblings. g. P. S. Remember, "Agree to disagree, for not one person is ever truly right."

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