Can you tell me the definition of humanity? According to Merriam-Webster it is as follows:
: the quality or state of being human
: the quality or state of being kind to other people or to animals
: all people
That sounds simple enough, but why then is it so difficult for most of us to display it?
I have been spending a lot of time lately observing society and I must say it frightens me. I am finding the world we live in today unrecognizable from the world I grew up in. Hate and judgement have always been around, but it seems to be running rampant more than ever. People are so quick to judge anyone and everyone, but refuse to take any accountability for themselves and their own actions and/or behaviors. Why is that? What makes any of us better than someone else? True, there are some that are morally hopeless and commit horrendous acts against others who are clearly exempt from this discussion. I am referring to people who choose not to “conform” to the “normalcies” of society. We all come from different backgrounds, have different beliefs, and different lifestyles, so how is it that we are all expected to be the same? Just because one person does not agree with another’s choices, or finds it hard to understand them, should not make them any less of a human being. All this talk about equality, and this groups rights and that groups rights, I believe is just making the problem worse. By constantly putting people into different categories all that is happening is more separation. I am not saying you have to agree with everything everyone does, because I certainly do not, but there is no need to make anyone feel like less of a human because they want to live their life a certain way. If they are not harming others or committing crimes, then what does it matter?
I’ll give you an example of where I am coming from. Whether you watch the show or not, it is most likely that you have been unable to avoid the talk about the Kardashian’s and Bruce Jenner’s life choices. I will admit when I initially heard about it I thought it was completely absurd. At first, I thought it was nothing more than trashy tabloid gossip, but as it became clear that it was in fact real my thoughts turned to confusion and curiosity, some sympathy, and yes even judgment. I could not fathom how someone who was at one time the greatest athlete in the world turned into “this”. “This”? What was I doing? He is not a thing, he is a human being and regardless of how he chooses to live his life he should be treated the same. He is not an object for ridicule and shame, he is someone’s family, he is a father and like the rest of us, he is human. I do not care how much money someone makes or where they live or if their life is public and put on display for the world to see, we are all the same. We all have concerns, we all have bills, we all have jobs, we all have people to care for, we all have emotions, and we all fight to make it another day. We need to stop judging and start supporting. Regardless if we agree with it or not, no one knows everyone’s struggles and stories, but we can certainly appreciate that we all have them, and just because yours were different from someone else and you chose to handle it how you did, that does not mean others have to do the same and it does not make you better than anyone.
I tend to look at things with simplicity, and quite often I am left confused by how complicated people make things. I will say it again, we are all human beings! There is good and bad everywhere in the world, but if we could just be a little less judgmental of each other maybe the good will begin surpass the bad. Again, it does not mean we have to agree with everything, just accept what is. As much as I would like to believe my words will change some people, and they might, I know there are some who will hear nothing. So go ahead, judge me for siding with the Kardashian’s (gasp!), judge me for having tattoos, judge me for being a single mom – just know that while you are busy judging me someone else is judging you.
To Bruce Jenner, I will say I am having a hard time wrapping my head around this, as I am sure most people are, but at the end of the day this is about you and your family. Your appearance may continue to change, but your heart will remain the same and that is what everyone needs to remember. I hope you achieve your goal with going public and are able to help others facing the same struggles with openness, and I hope one day none of this will even have to be a topic for discussion. I would like to someday see there is no longer a need for separation by gender, race, sexuality, etc., and people will just be able to live how they choose. No one has to agree on everything, we just need to be decent to our fellow humans.
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