There is a quote I heard on one of my favorite television shows that says, “You get to a point in your life where you realize you’ve got more yesterdays than tomorrows.” I believe I am far from that point, but I do hope that for however many tomorrows I have left, I won’t have to spend them alone. That I will have someone who will stand by my side and be supportive, someone who will fight for me just as I will for them, someone who will love me and protect me, someone who is happy simply being with me.
Seems like that would be a fairly reasonable wish, I mean (insert sarcastic narcissism humor please) I am ridiculously adorable and extremely fun to be around, but certainly all that perfection can become taxing. 😀 No, I am far from prefect. I am just as flawed as anyone else. I have made mistakes, lacked proper judgment, and wore two different shoes with my shirt on backwards. Hey it happens, and usually it happens to the best of us. Those of us who at heart try to be the best person we can be, who try to be forgiving and understanding, respectful and caring. But when it comes time for us to be in need of that compassion, we find ourselves cast out in the cold, and quite often by those same ones we once had compassion for.
For example, a former friend of mine had an affair with my ex-husband when we were married (as was she), after about four years I foolishly forgave her which in turn gave her new opportunities to sabotage more relationships, that of the romantic nature and of friendship. She is someone who has managed to get her way with everything she wants through deceit and manipulation, while those of us who work hard and try to play by the rules still struggle.
But she is not the only that has hurt me, she is not the only one I have let back into my life time and time again, and I am not the only person whom this has ever happened to. So let’s not turn it into a pity party because that was not my intent.
The point I am getting at goes solely back to the quote. One day we will have more yesterdays than tomorrows, and we have no idea when that will happen. We have no idea what tomorrow will bring. So work on today. Be the best person you can be. Be supportive, and loving, and compassionate to the ones you want to while you can. If they can’t give it back to you it doesn’t mean they are horrible. It is when they take everything and offer nothing that you have to be alarmed. Some people are just selfish, some people are just incapable, and some people just don’t care. We have no control over that, we can only control our own behavior and reactions. If you can fall asleep at night knowing you did the best you could for that day, and you didn’t purposely set out to hurt anyone, then I would say you are on the right path to all your heart’s desires.
See, some people may look for the fast and easy route to get what they want, while the rest of us struggle and work hard with minimal results, but that’s ok. Because while they are continuously bored and looking for the next thing to distract them and give instant gratification, us strugglers will be appreciating all that we have earned. We’ll be enjoying it and loving life.
We want the dream job, the dream house, the dream relationship…and we want it NOW! But we can’t have it yet. We are still growing, still learning, still building that path. We know that nothing worthwhile comes easy, but if you can’t handle the struggle before you get there, how will you handle the struggle to stay there?
Think about those people in relationships who say they want to be together forever (whether married or not) but at the first sign of difficulty they are ready to jump ship. They will never be successful in a relationship because they can’t weather the storm. The waves are going to get choppy, the wind is going to howl, but when that sun rises again and the skies are bright and blue, who do you want next to you?
So don’t give up. Don’t take the easy route at the expense of others. Don’t take anything you love for granted. And don’t worry about the others who stepped on you to try and get there first. You are going somewhere far better! We will all get to our destination, our dreams will come true. Just believe in yourself and your decisions! And if you have a misstep along the way, shake it off. Forgive yourself, apologize if you must, and carry on, because tomorrow could be the day you realize you have more yesterdays.
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