All our trusty standby’s for when we need to fix something, but unfortunately they cannot fix everything. It would be wonderful if we could super glue a broken heart back together, duct tape a fractured relationship to hold it in place, or rubber band trust to keep it secure. Yes, that would be a beautiful thing…or would it?
Maybe some things have to fall apart. Maybe they need to fall apart for us to see how much we really appreciate them. To see if we really want to fight for them and put in the effort to sustain them. Maybe they fall apart in order to come together again and be stronger than before.
I think when there is a separation then that is an opportunity for us to be honest with ourselves. A time to for us to reflect and really find out what we want.
Relationships are never easy, there are always twists and turns. None of us are perfect, we won’t always agree, and sometimes we won’t be able to stand the sight of each other. But that’s because we’re human, we’re individuals, and we have our own identity. At least we should.
It’s great to enjoy the same things and have similar interests, and to even try new things with each other, but it is never healthy to “fuse together” for every single thing. Especially if you are living together. If you live together, and you know at the end of the day your person will be there, then there is no need to be together every waking moment of every single day.
Take some time to run separate errands, do a little shopping or go to a movie…just do something apart from each other. Then when you come together at the days end you will have something fresh to discuss. Conversations become stagnate when they are always about the same old thing, then you start to have fewer conversations causing a break in communication and that is never a good thing.
If you are in a relationship with someone, and you are wanting them to be a part of your life, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to go through the tough times. Ask yourself if you are willing to work for the relationship, if you are willing to fight for each other even when you want to fight with each other. And to me it doesn’t matter if you are married or not. If you are making a commitment to someone you need to be able to back it up.
So yes, duct tape, super glue and rubber bands won’t fix everything, but that’s because some things are worth the extra care, effort and attention. If something is truly meaningful to you then you don’t want a quick fix, you want a permanent repair. And yes, even the most dismal of situations can be repaired.
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