Unrequited Love…

What is it? By Definition it is “not reciprocated or returned in kind”, this seems painfully and obviously true, but is there something deeper to it? When you love someone, and you have spent a somewhat significant portion of your life with them, how can they simply feel nothing? And is it ever enough to just know that they “care” about you? Maybe not…

But we hold on don’t we? We hold on with hope, with love, with faith. We grasp ahold of any possible glimmer of affection with the desire that it will manifest into exactly what we feel for them. But it doesn’t does it? Is it because we’re flawed in some way? Hell, we are all flawed in our own ways, so no, I don’t think that’s it. I think it’s that one is not always capable of expressing their true feelings, but the question is why?

Why can’t they express it, but why do we hang on? (Sigh) Love, Love, Love, it’s all we hear about growing up. How it’s supposed to be this saving grace from all the pain of the world, yet when we get it we seem to always find new pains don’t we? Which brings another question to mind…is it the love we can’t live without, or is it the pain? Each causes us to feel, thereby confirming our existence, but which is greater? In the case of unrequited love, I must say the pain is more intense, but the love…the love does seem to make all else disappear.

So now imagine if they would return the love. How wonderful would it be to have a life full and complete with all emotional balance? So what is the hindrance? Once again my best guess is fear. Fear, that evil word filled with death and despair of one’s hopes, dreams and desires. Fear will destroy your entire existence if you allow it to. So don’t!! Don’t be afraid of what you know will make you happy. Be more afraid of losing it, be more afraid of never trying. Life is too short for missed opportunity. Live it while you’ve got it. Do everything in your power to be as happy as you can for as long as you can. Because while you’re sitting there gripping your fear of loving someone, that person is sitting grasping their hope that you will, and all the while life is passing you both by. Open your heart. Let them in and let the fear out. If you’ve got someone in your life who accepts you entirely as you are, and who makes life a bit more bearable and enjoyable, then you’ve got it made!

There will always be difficult moments, but wouldn’t you rather have someone who you know will still love you even if you’ve just had the worst fight ever? Don’t you want someone to make up with? Someone to hold close and apologize to when you realize what a complete and utter jackass you’ve been? I know I do, but maybe that is unrequited too…


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Greetings! I guess you're here to find out who I am...looks like we're in the same boat. I have been writing poetry since I was 16, not because I thought it was a "cool thing to do", but because if I didn't my head would have exploded. With a multitude of words billowing through my brain, I had no other choice but to let them out. Some have been funny, many have been sad, but mostly, they've been guideposts. Unfortunately, I do not write as much as I would like to, but I hope to rectify that. Aside from poetry, I dabble in novel-writing. I have many ideas jotted down, some of them I've started, and maybe one day I will actually get one finished (if I just didn't have to worry about working, paying bills, and simple basic survival). I spend a lot of my time supporting my kids dreams. My daughter is a musician, and my son is an athlete, so between music gigs and school sporting events, my time is pretty much consumed...but I love every single moment of it!! I am also passionate about environmental issues; always looking for ways to lend a hand. Currently, I have an Etsy shop where I sell crocheted items that I have personally made. A portion of the proceeds are going to be donated to two of my favorite charities; Mission Blue and Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation. You can learn more at https://www.etsy.com/shop/PeaceLoveGlo?ref=hdr_shop_menu Other than that, I love to travel! I hope to see as much of the world as possible. There is so much more out there than just where we are, and I feel it is a gift that we should not take for granted. Once upon a time I was a runner (though some may have called it jogging with enthusiasm), but my Achilles decided it didn't like that anymore so now we walk. I'm beginning to venture into yoga, which so far has been a pleasant experience, and if time will permit, I would like to start doing some hiking. I also love music and going to concerts, coffee is my best friend, and over thinking is my worst enemy. So that's pretty much me in a nutshell. Nothing too fancy or exciting, just a 40-something still trying to figure it all out. I hope you enjoy my ramblings. g. P. S. Remember, "Agree to disagree, for not one person is ever truly right."

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