Now that I have your attention…What do men want? What do they need? Questions they often ask about us right? And they sit, just as confused as we are. I think we are all equally complex in our own individual ways, and in order to maintain some sort of balance and stability in our relationships we need to realize our needs don’t differ all that much.

Men are the heroes, yes? They have a natural instinct to save the day, to be the protector, the provider…that’s true to some extent, but they are also human beings with emotions just like the rest of us. (Gasp!) Men have emotions?! Yes indeed, they very much do. The question is, how often do we as women give them the platform to express them?

Women are the damsels in distress, right? It’s true, many of us would like to be “rescued”, to be taken care of, to live the “fairytale” life…but this is not Walt Disney World that we live in. We are human beings as well, and while we are generally more expressive with our emotions, we are also quite capable of taking care of what is necessary without our male counterpart.

Now, I am not trying to make one sex out to be more superior to the other, quite the opposite actually. I would like for us to broaden the spectrum when we think of one another.

Women have the ability to be strong, independent, go-getters, to provide for the family, to keep that family safe, but it should never come at the expense of your man’s ego. Yes, it is a real thing, and it is very fragile. There is no need to degrade, or belittle him, nor should he ever do that to you.

Men require the same emotional support that we as women do, but it is so easy to forget that. We get so consumed with our own wants and desires, that we don’t realize they have their own wants and desires too…and no, it’s not only boobs and beer! They have bad days too, sometimes people piss them off, etc. Whatever it is, it is important to remember men have insecurities, fears and vulnerabilities just like us.

I think it is important for us ladies to allow our men the opportunity to express those feelings. Sometimes we need to be strong for them. Sometimes we need to be the one listening, and not the one talking. Relationships are never perfectly equal, but there should be equality in the care and concern you have for one another.

I certainly do not claim to be an expert on any of this, and some may argue that I am completely wrong. These are simply my opinions and viewpoints, but it is something I take to heart, based off unpleasant situations I witnessed growing up.

So to sum things up, be considerate. If you are in a relationship, remember you are not in it alone. Neither one of you is better than the other. You each bring something to the relationship (at least you should be) and we need to appreciate each other for that. Regardless of who “wears the pants”, you both share the love, so show it.



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Greetings! I guess you're here to find out who I am...looks like we're in the same boat. I have been writing poetry since I was 16, not because I thought it was a "cool thing to do", but because if I didn't my head would have exploded. With a multitude of words billowing through my brain, I had no other choice but to let them out. Some have been funny, many have been sad, but mostly, they've been guideposts. Unfortunately, I do not write as much as I would like to, but I hope to rectify that. Aside from poetry, I dabble in novel-writing. I have many ideas jotted down, some of them I've started, and maybe one day I will actually get one finished (if I just didn't have to worry about working, paying bills, and simple basic survival). I spend a lot of my time supporting my kids dreams. My daughter is a musician, and my son is an athlete, so between music gigs and school sporting events, my time is pretty much consumed...but I love every single moment of it!! I am also passionate about environmental issues; always looking for ways to lend a hand. Currently, I have an Etsy shop where I sell crocheted items that I have personally made. A portion of the proceeds are going to be donated to two of my favorite charities; Mission Blue and Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation. You can learn more at Other than that, I love to travel! I hope to see as much of the world as possible. There is so much more out there than just where we are, and I feel it is a gift that we should not take for granted. Once upon a time I was a runner (though some may have called it jogging with enthusiasm), but my Achilles decided it didn't like that anymore so now we walk. I'm beginning to venture into yoga, which so far has been a pleasant experience, and if time will permit, I would like to start doing some hiking. I also love music and going to concerts, coffee is my best friend, and over thinking is my worst enemy. So that's pretty much me in a nutshell. Nothing too fancy or exciting, just a 40-something still trying to figure it all out. I hope you enjoy my ramblings. g. P. S. Remember, "Agree to disagree, for not one person is ever truly right."

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