The Death of Romance?

Is romance dead? Personally, I don’t think so, but I do believe it has been forced to the back burner of life. We all find ourselves so consumed with work, children, finances, etc., but what about our relationships? Why do we wait until we get to the point of “I don’t know what happened” before we realize how much the other person means to us? If the relationship is good, and you make each other happy, then start learning how to build on that. When everything else around you seems as if it’s falling apart, remind yourself that you are very fortunate for having someone in your life who will care for you and love you in spite of all obstacles and challenges. So you did not meet a deadline, you encountered unbelievable road rage, your child is sick, you bounced a check, or you ran out of beer…well guess what? Shit happens a.k.a. life. Don’t let it break you, because it’s only a moment in time. Take this opportunity to call your other half, or stop by to see their beautiful face, allow them the opportunity to be the partner they should be, and when necessary, return the favor.  Sometimes we need someone to hold us up a bit to feel better, sometimes we need to be the one holding someone up to feel better. It can, at times, be a pleasant distraction to forget about our worries for a while and help someone out with theirs.

And so, back to the romance. It is not dead. It is simply hidden under a mist of distraction. Don’t allow life’s unpleasant obstacles to take you away from the beautiful joys that are at hand. Appreciate each other, care for each other, lean on each other, and support each other. We don’t get many chances to find someone to balance our lives, so when you do, don’t let it sail away. Flowers? Sure they’re nice. Poems? Always enchanting. Heartfelt emails/letters? It nice to know what they feel inside. But sometimes a simple gaze into one’s eyes, a soft stroke of the cheek, a smile for some unknown reason, a kiss on the forehead, or the pushing back of one’s hair is all that is needed. Romance doesn’t have to be costly, and it shouldn’t be. Romance, by definition, is simply “a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love.” I think we can all manage that can’t we?

So it’s simple, embrace what you have, nurture it, never neglect it, and remember when all the world comes crashing down, at least you won’t have to suffer the impact alone.


©Gloria Tassen and Life According To G, 2013. Unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this blog’s author and/or owner is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links may be used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Gloria Tassen and Life According To G with appropriate and specific direction to the original content.

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Greetings! I guess you're here to find out who I am...looks like we're in the same boat. I have been writing poetry since I was 16, not because I thought it was a "cool thing to do", but because if I didn't my head would have exploded. With a multitude of words billowing through my brain, I had no other choice but to let them out. Some have been funny, many have been sad, but mostly, they've been guideposts. Unfortunately, I do not write as much as I would like to, but I hope to rectify that. Aside from poetry, I dabble in novel-writing. I have many ideas jotted down, some of them I've started, and maybe one day I will actually get one finished (if I just didn't have to worry about working, paying bills, and simple basic survival). I spend a lot of my time supporting my kids dreams. My daughter is a musician, and my son is an athlete, so between music gigs and school sporting events, my time is pretty much consumed...but I love every single moment of it!! I am also passionate about environmental issues; always looking for ways to lend a hand. Currently, I have an Etsy shop where I sell crocheted items that I have personally made. A portion of the proceeds are going to be donated to two of my favorite charities; Mission Blue and Leonardo DiCaprio Foundation. You can learn more at Other than that, I love to travel! I hope to see as much of the world as possible. There is so much more out there than just where we are, and I feel it is a gift that we should not take for granted. Once upon a time I was a runner (though some may have called it jogging with enthusiasm), but my Achilles decided it didn't like that anymore so now we walk. I'm beginning to venture into yoga, which so far has been a pleasant experience, and if time will permit, I would like to start doing some hiking. I also love music and going to concerts, coffee is my best friend, and over thinking is my worst enemy. So that's pretty much me in a nutshell. Nothing too fancy or exciting, just a 40-something still trying to figure it all out. I hope you enjoy my ramblings. g. P. S. Remember, "Agree to disagree, for not one person is ever truly right."

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